July 22, 2011
I feel silly saying this, but I’m blogging from a new location:
Nothing is ever set in stone when it comes to blogs and me, and I feel a little strange and sad distancing myself from the posts here by starting somewhere new (not to be dramatic or anything…), but I have been thinking about this change for a while. You can read a bit more about why here.
I cherish the memories I’ve documented here.
PS – I am still working on (ie putting off) subscribing to blogs via an RSS feed. Soon!
June 29, 2011
I got this list from my friend Kristen (it’s originally from here) and I had to re-post. I first read about what it really means to be an introvert last year after filling out a long questionnaire about my personality, and I felt like it was the first time I’d seen a totally spot on description and analysis of my personality type, ever. In a way it helped me understand and accept my weird self. So I love this :)
10 Myths about Introverts
Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.
Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.
PS: A picture from my weekend that has everything to do with this post.
June 27, 2011
I am still “in transition” and will be for a long time to come. Life is crazy right now. Watching the sun rise is a good way to feel peaceful for a few minutes.
I have a job interview with an organization I would be very happy to work with, in the location I want, but I think it may involve extensive travel (driving), and I’m still a baby beginner driver. So it may very well be an impossible fit, but I’ll find out. I’m trying to stay relaxed about the job hunt. I’ve had enough responses to my job applications (not many, but enough) that I feel comfortable waiting until I find one that’s right for me. I could handle a few more months of searching before I really get worried (read: desperate). Still, when I start thinking about things like getting a car, a new apartment, replacing the things I didn’t keep in the move, and paying “adult” bills soon, it’s pretty scary.
There is so much other stuff going on and yet I have nothing cohesive to talk about, at least not here, for now. In fun news though, I may have a camping trip, a Britney Spears concert, a Cirque du Soleil performance, a day at Universal Studios, and/or a weekend visit with an old friend coming up.
June 7, 2011
First of all, thank you to WordPress for featuring my previous post, “Dunder Mifflin, this is Toni” on Freshly Pressed. That was the second time WordPress has featured my blog; the first time was my “NYC! (Photo Dump).”
[Insert random photos of recent food here.]
Tomorrow I leave to go visit one of my oldest friends in Louisiana for a few days! We’ve decided it will be somewhat of a Martha Stewart weekend. My friend is excellent at baking, decorating, scrapbooking, and all things arts and crafts. When we were kids I loved spending time in her bedrooms because they were so pretty (we both moved from Missouri to Florida in the early 2000s and went to school together in both states!), and her scrapbooks were like masterpieces. I attempted to scrapbook in high school because of her and it. was. ugly. The captions alone are so bad I can never share them with anyone. Anyway, on this short trip, we will probably take on some artsy projects that she will excel at and I will fail at. And I can’t wait.
I’ve had some fun and relaxing past few days, probably a little bit too much so for my own good. But I don’t regret it. This post-graduation “vacation” was much needed, or at least, much appreciated. I’ve been browsing through design books and murder mysteries, writing in my journal (of the non-digital sort) for the first time in 10 months, eating good food, spending time with friends and family, and more.
In my journal, I came across an entry from August 2009–a “Lifelong To-Do List” apparently inspired by Real Simple magazine that month (seriously, I love that magazine). After reading this post on the blog hithatsmybike (see her recent entries on spending a month in Paris, gah, amazing), I decided to post my 2009 list here.
May 27, 2011
Just a quick update to say that
since my last post in the last 3 days, I have, among other things:
- gone to an out-of-state job interview (where I was grilled by about 15-20 people over the course of 4 1/2 hours),
- passed my driver’s license test (10 years after getting my learner’s permit),
- and officially started moving out of my house (I should be done by Sunday), selling a lot of my furniture and clothing in the process.
This is one crazy time. Even though I’m sort of in limbo about “what’s next” right now, it feels good to be tackling these challenges. The fun summer plans–easy reading, touching up furniture, cooking new meals–will have to wait a little longer, and I can’t even upload photos right now, which is annoying, but soon I’ll be at my parents’ house again and probably in a more normal routine. I was right. 2011 is my year of action.
May 10, 2011
Heh, couldn’t help but love this after a friend posted it on Facebook. Now that I’ve made a big ole to-do list, it’s funny to see which tasks actually get accomplished so that I can avoid others.
May 5, 2011
I found out about the 8 Weeks to a Better Me project through Cara-Mia, but given my poor track record with blog challenges, I mentally wrestled with it a bit. Blame laziness, flightiness, life getting in the way–whatever it is, I should probably not commit to anything blog-related that lasts more than a few days. That being said, I like the Week One challenge of coming up with three blogging goals. I can do that. I can do that right now, in fact. (No one said I actually have to accomplish them right? …Kidding.)