Here’s to Introverts

June 29, 2011

I got this list from my friend Kristen (it’s originally from here) and I had to re-post. I first read about what it really means to be an introvert last year after filling out a long questionnaire about my personality, and I felt like it was the first time I’d seen a totally spot on description and analysis of my personality type, ever. In a way it helped me understand and accept my weird self. So I love this :)

10 Myths about Introverts

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.

Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

PS: A picture from my weekend that has everything to do with this post.

Beach diner

7 Responses to “Here’s to Introverts”

  1. taureanw Says:

    Love this list! I am very much an introvert and I think I will hand this list to some of my friends who just don’t seem to understand what that means :-)

  2. lavietoni Says:

    I should have it on hand too :) ..especially the part about needing to recharge often. Seriously. Gotta have it.

  3. ingrebourne Says:

    Hi Toni,

    I loved this list of myths and it sums life up perfectly for ‘intros’. (I am one, obviously!)

    So I had a look through your blog as it was on Freshly Pressed. Lovely, a burst of life and colour.

    Great photography and individual words and tastes.


  4. Darren Jones Says:

    I don’t know which i want more the book or the waffle

  5. journalfemme Says:

    I LOVE this!

    A fellow introvert myself, (oh and why do the labels “introvert” and “loner” always seem so negative) I am so happy to find that there is a personality type list that I can relate to so completely!

    Thank you for sharing :)

  6. lavietoni Says:

    FYI, I think this is the little online questionnaire I filled out last year…it tells you your 4-part personality type and several different links to check out after you get your response. Not very scientific, I’m sure, but still interesting.

  7. Because of negative, social stereotypes, I nearly had a nervous breakdown when a career counselor revealed I was an introvert. You would have thought she had just diagnosed me with schizophrenia. I was in total denial and even argued with her. But over the years, I’ve come to realize it’s not a bad thing at all! I embrace my inner introvert and the glorious qualities that make me unique. This list is spot on!

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